tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post799195623190814303..comments2024-01-12T15:33:05.116-06:00Comments on Comin' Home: How to Be a Good Wife Today...From A List Written in the 1950'sDonnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00944882257793647449noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-25361364358800464792010-07-19T20:36:27.213-05:002010-07-19T20:36:27.213-05:00Happy Anniversary!
I've seen this list before...Happy Anniversary!<br /><br />I've seen this list before, but always with a derogatory commentary on how this is not enlightened for today. I loved your perspective and it let me read it with new eyes. I do have alot more freedom than Kevin and although unlike you, I've not always loved homemaking, I am growing to love it and know that it is God's call for this season of life ... Thanks for the reminder. <br /><br />(Our anniversary is next week, the 28th. #9!)Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09929299128040779462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-20739118688218037252010-07-17T10:12:41.264-05:002010-07-17T10:12:41.264-05:00*L* So according to the 50's I fail..but hey, ...*L* So according to the 50's I fail..but hey, to my hubby I'm just right and I'm thankful for that. I wonder how this list has changed over the years?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-62760178654885728212010-07-16T14:28:44.165-05:002010-07-16T14:28:44.165-05:00What wonderful post! Happy Anniversary to you both...What wonderful post! Happy Anniversary to you both and many, many more!<br /><br />Blessings, JillJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14904921240840944999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-24478906520251064242010-07-16T09:05:04.932-05:002010-07-16T09:05:04.932-05:00You are amazing! Your husband is so lucky to have...You are amazing! Your husband is so lucky to have you for his wife! He sounds like such a great guy too if you still feel this way after 23 years.<br />Great post Donna!<br />xo<br />MariaMaria Killamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12728225086725817125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-58737687141405620402010-07-15T14:47:47.215-05:002010-07-15T14:47:47.215-05:00Donna,
I love your blog and the homemaking list. ...Donna, <br />I love your blog and the homemaking list. Being old fashioned rocks. :-)Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04892660948749817662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-1121250281998026452010-07-15T14:47:07.819-05:002010-07-15T14:47:07.819-05:00Donna,
I love the list!! I try to live by those ...Donna, <br /><br />I love the list!! I try to live by those things, too...I think being old fashioned rocks :-) Your blogs are beautifully designed and impressive.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04892660948749817662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-89479509874054839312010-07-15T14:30:48.605-05:002010-07-15T14:30:48.605-05:00Happy
Anniversary to a wonderful wife.Happy <br />Anniversary to a wonderful wife.Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04242778760582160429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-2258181705581717352010-07-15T09:30:10.228-05:002010-07-15T09:30:10.228-05:00Blogger Donna said...
You guys are amazing! ...Blogger Donna said...<br /><br /> You guys are amazing! And I appreciate your comments. I was just a tad nervous to so blatantly state my perspective on homemaking. I've been married 23 years on this July 18th. I've worked hard to be a homemaker since I was probably five years old-Tee-hee! I've also worked and had at one time planned to be an accountant. But my heart was always in homemaking.<br /><br /> And Julia, I do understand that women choose other careers and the jobs have to be divided out differently at times. Even my hubby sometimes does the things on that list for me because I have a full time job just homeschooling! I've been teaching for 20 years now. It's been a heavy responsibility. So we have shifted the tasks in our home around quite a bit when necessary.<br /><br /> I'd love to 'just do homemaking' but we were adamant about home education. So Tim has been as quick to jump in and help with babies or chores as any guy ever could, or to let me go lay down for a nap.<br /><br /> But as a wife, serving him is my ultimate goal. Even with the homeschooling, I found I could adjust my schedule much easier than he could and take the pressure off of him. He's always had demanding jobs and no option for scheduling until the last eight years or so.<br /><br /> Still, Peach Rainbow is right..life would be smoother and there would be less divorces if we wives had a more serving heart and honored our hubbies as the 'main providers of our homes' as so many of them are. <br /><br />Of course, I'm very old-fashioned and I consider Tim to be the 'king of our castle'. It helps that I don't mind that life is not focused on me but rather on him. (He is absolutely focused on the health and happiness of our whole family so this works both ways). I made a completely purposeful decision to accept Tim as the "head of our home" and the final decision maker.<br /><br /> Frankly, in today's culture, everyone in the family is being tugged in a different direction and in the end it's exhausting for everyone. Two people working on a common goal, for the good of the whole family, make so much more progress and everyone benefits. I bring in money too now and then and I know other women do much more than that. My job as homemaker and homeschooler isn't less work than Tim's..it's just more flexible. That's where a lot of stress comes from. If neither spouse has that flex then, a lot of stress can build up in the day. Add kids' schedules to that and you are talking about a lot of conflict and no one to comfort or nurture anyone. I like being that one. I think it comes more easily to most woman to be nurturers..much more so than to men. <br /><br />Yes-I'm afraid I am stereotyping but it's just plain true. There are exceptions but I think most of us know that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus--hello?Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00944882257793647449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-4009957172314540582010-07-15T09:02:32.501-05:002010-07-15T09:02:32.501-05:00Donna, I feel the way you do about our duties as h...Donna, I feel the way you do about our duties as homemakers, wives and mothers. But I also struggle with staying focused. I get sidetracked easily with all of the things I want to do, and I often have trouble prioritizing all of the various tasks that must be done in a day, but having this as a goal is always in the forefront of my mind. Thank you for being brave enough to post this and being so honest. I hope it helps many women and families. It is a good reminder and checklist for me.<br /><br />Trudy<br />www.sewingwithtrudy.blogspot.comTrudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11649677045881448393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-23641654549332469152010-07-15T08:01:11.549-05:002010-07-15T08:01:11.549-05:00Oh my, I'm afraid that I don't do any of t...Oh my, I'm afraid that I don't do any of the things on this list. I remember reading it way back sometime a long time ago. I will say, though, that we've been married 37 1/2 years so whatever we are doing is working for us. We've established our "jobs", etc... I did work full time and have three kids, who are now grown. He owned his own business and so was not home till after supper time every night. It worked for us. Now, we share most duties around the house. We also share the love for each other's parental care, etc.....Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097054119585201394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-83085117283040377742010-07-15T07:39:13.854-05:002010-07-15T07:39:13.854-05:00Donna..I recently found my senior statement..what ...Donna..I recently found my senior statement..what do you want to be...I said a housewife..a mother of a large family and a teacher.Well I taught my kids at home..was and still say a housewife..with pride...and I had 5 children..and now 9 grandchildren..I think I had things figured out even way back then!! lol<br />I can't wait to meet you in person!!<br /><br />Happy anniversary early..I am still having difficulty with this country computer system..lol<br /><br />Love the cute apron!<br /><br />Hugs..Cindy Rick-Rack and GinghamCindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02605869260096318108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-29551513669683824272010-07-15T03:26:10.126-05:002010-07-15T03:26:10.126-05:00I just re-read my post, and I just want to add tha...I just re-read my post, and I just want to add that I don't think women who work love their children and husbands any less...Just to clarify :)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18078706141329909992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-51954430723613379632010-07-15T03:25:04.114-05:002010-07-15T03:25:04.114-05:00Hi,
I consider myself in so many ways to be a fem...Hi,<br /><br />I consider myself in so many ways to be a feminist! Women now have the right to choose what they do for a living, or if they are very lucky they can choose to stay home. <br /><br />We downsized our house so that we could afford for me to stay home. I love my husband and children and feel very proud of myself when I'm doing a good job and I know that he loves it too. I used to be very career minded and I think if I still was then we would no longer be together. <br /><br />Thank you for this post...:)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18078706141329909992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630829430019968762.post-39414481450106201472010-07-15T02:12:45.446-05:002010-07-15T02:12:45.446-05:00What a wonderful list!
I agree, there will be som...What a wonderful list!<br /><br />I agree, there will be some who would consider this to be out dated but the role of a wife will and should always be the same.<br /><br />Life would be smooth, divorces will be less, if all the wives tried to have these qualities.<br /> <br />Glad to know there are wives who still love to be like this.<br /><br />Glad you are one of them!Peach Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357454359585974347noreply@blogger.com